tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11512570621960287792024-03-13T00:53:22.709-07:00The Perfect Ramblings of an Imperfect WomanHeather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.comBlogger237125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-22963919161175046672013-02-22T08:38:00.000-08:002013-02-22T08:38:53.509-08:00Back?So...I changed the name of my blog. A Womb Thought seems kind of irrelevent now that I will not be focusing on getting pregnant and instead on my life with two crazy kids and one wonderful but nutty husband. Not to mention my new and terrifying exploration into MS and what it's going to mean for me and my family.<br />
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I am hoping that this is the beginning of me being back. Me finding my voice again. I have been so focused on Asher and James and keeping up with my new role as SAHM(and W) that I haven't really focused on me much. Other than my lovely medical visits...I haven't had much me time in the last 14 months. I'm not complaining...not by any stretch. I am loving it (almost always :) and would not trade it for anything. I love hanging with my little man all day. Even if I have to care for another little boy to help out financially and that limits my activities with Asher (and James when he's not in school). It's everything I always hoped it would be to be a Mom and wife.<br />
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Let's see. Life has changed quite a bit since my last entry. Jimmy's office closed their doors and so he transferred to a different office and we moved. Went into a hellish townhouse rental for 4 months while we house hunted and waiting on the closing. It was horrible. I wasn't sure we were going to survive it. But we did. Moved into our amazing house. It has so much space after the townhouse. It's tri-level and since we have it baby proofed, Asher can stretch out his new running legs and explore our first floor (and select rooms on the second floor when necessary) without issue. He is his old happy baby self again. James is no longer hibranating in his room with video games. We get to see his beautiful face in the evening for alittle chatting and/or t.v. Maybe a board game or two <3 24="" a="" actually="" all="" always="" am="" amazing.="" and="" area="" back.="" being="" children="" comes="" for="" from="" has="" he="" here="" his="" home="" i="" in="" insane.="" is="" it.="" it="" jimmy="" living="" love="" making="" me.="" me="" nbsp="" new="" our="" p="" perfect.="" place="" reality="" s="" says="" thank="" that="" the="" wanted="" was="" what="" when="" wife="" with="" wonderful="" work=""><br />
And now that things are slowing down on the moving front, I need to start doing some more indepth fact gathing on this whole MS thing. With it coming right in the midsts of my TTTC it has really gotten pushed to the back burner. And that is not smart and no longer possible. My nuero felt it was okay to not start meds till I was done with my pregnancy and breast feeding. Well the breast feeding didn't happen, but the meds we decided on are still trying to be released in the U.S. They have been around and utlized in Europe for years, but are waiting on FDA approval. So I go back in May (again!) for another attemp at starting them. I also talked to Jimmy about going to a MS for Dummies seminar that my nuero runs. Find out exactly what this disease is all about. I know that it's something that is a completely different experience for every patient. That no two diagnosis will ever be the same. But some rough idea of what we can expect and such might be smart.<br />
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I've been lucky (if you can say I've been diagnosed with MS and I've been lucky in the same statement :) in that when you normally go through your toughest part of MS, being diagnosed and founding out you have this horrible disease that is reeking havoc on your body. It didn't go like that for me. In my mid-20s I woke up one morning and had double vision. Went to the hospital and saw several nueros. Had all kinds of MRIs and CAT scans and met with an optical nuerologist. No one could figure out what was going on. A stroke was mentioned. A palsy. But a definative answer...no. After about 30 days I got my vision back. A few years back I spiked a high fever and then was having trouble with my vision. Went to a doctor and was diagnosed with pink eye. Took meds and it got worse. Was diagnosed with another eye infection and meds were changed. Continued to get worse. It got so bad that it permanently scarred my cornea. Never got a diagnosis. Just treated the scarring and got rid of the infection.<br />
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It's scarey to think that so far two of my biggest flare ups for MS have been visionary based. I really hope that I'm not going to lose my sight in the future. I would hate that!! Ugh. Can't anticipate the worst I guess. Need to focus on the positive and the here and now.<br />
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Anyway. My point is that even though I had flare ups and issues from the disease, I never knew I had it. I was misdiagnosed or not diagnosed any time I had my major flare ups. I was also raised my a woman who did not believe in doctors. So we didn't go unless something was falling off. So I thougth everyone had numbness and tingling and stomach pains and draggy leg. I thought they were normal things. What did I know? So when I found out I had MS, I had already been living with it for 18 or so years. So it was easy to push it aside and focus on the more important fertiltiy issues we were having at the time. I wasn't even having a flare up when I was diagnosed. I found out on a fluke following a car accident and having my neck/back fusion checked.<br />
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And I guess my point is that I need to focus on it more now so that I can continue to say that I have MS and I'm lucky together in the same sentence. Of course this focus has to fall during nap time because that's the only time I'm not Mama or Honey...doing my job.</3>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-51622952829872996672012-02-21T05:20:00.002-08:002012-02-21T05:37:40.802-08:00WOW...<div>I can't believe that my last post was while I was still in second trimester. But I guess third is when things started to get a little nutty. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and they could not get my numbers under control. So I was seeing an endocrinologist in addition to my doctors already on the docket :) I was seeing her twice a week in the beginning as well as non-stress tests for my OB twice a week at that point. I felt like I lived at the docter's office and it was consuming my life! I think I had not been let go from my job I would have had to take time off or something to make it work even time wise. It was insane. Add in James starting school again and forget it.</div><div> </div><div>So I was scheduled for induction on December 5th. 39 weeks. I was set to go into the hospital on Sunday (the 4th) evening to start meds to soften my cervix with induction first thing Monday morning. At around 9 a.m. on the 4th I went into labor on my own. I was in labor all day and we finally decided that we should head over before our scheduled arrival time. I was in labor for 10 hours. It got pretty intense and I guess I was progressing extremely quickly. So the nurse is asking me all these registration questions and I can barely see straight. I have already told Jimmy (I don't rememer this <3) to not touch or speak to me at this point. I am not sure I can do this and they say I am not far enough along to get an epidural. But she was too busy with the questions to check me and realize that I have gone from 4 to 8 in less than an hour. Until my water broke and then she was forced to acknowledge I was moving along and check me and get the epidural going that I should have recieved much earlier.</div><div> </div><div>I'm pushing and pushing and nothing is happening. I'm not feeling the pressure they say I should and even though they see him come down into the birth canal he is bungeeing right back up and out of view as soon as I stop. So finallly the doctor says that we can continue pushing and maybe something will change, but she recommends cutting and running. So we go in for c-section. After he is born I over hear the doctor and nurses talking and they said thank God we went in when we did. He ear was caught on the embilical cord and he would have probably never dropped down naturally.</div><div> </div><div>During the end of my pregnancy I was still all belly, but baby was measuring big. Very big. They believe from the diabetes. It slowed down once the meds were started, but he was already measuring quite large. There was talk of planned c-section because they were afraid he would be too large for a vaginal delivery. Then it looked like he would be just under the contol line on size and it was decided I would try natural first. So when we has born I was truly shocked to hear that he only weighed 6 lbs. 12 oz. By the time we left the hospital (thanks in part to me never getting my milk in...so very sad about that) he was down to 6 lbs. 3 oz. My little cashew. Our take home outfit had to be traded out as he would have been swimming in it. Too funny.</div><div> </div><div>So...he's 2.5 months old now and I am more and more in love with him every day. I will write more but I need to shove some food in my mouth before he wakes up and I miss my window...but he is a photo for your viewing pleasure of the new love in my life...<img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; width: 191px; height: 320px; text-align: center; display: block; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5711582438171738082" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNhPCyBV3mOO_NYUEcQ3eYYjjOSMjxrZ9ANhIoWf0G6oOqrAj_x5eb5Mw2-JuRgEuVww7sMp9VAq1pOGrpmYMOtnmA-ik9xpWnLSg1KOmefX2ggrMvYFTiZMQvquVyN-9Kuod4sF7mUgnz/s320/side+smile.jpg" /></div><div> </div><div> </div>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-1767329369103548252011-09-07T06:28:00.001-07:002011-09-08T06:25:43.866-07:0026 Weeks<div><div><div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">How far along? Week 26 :)</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Next appointment? I have my OB on the 19th and my next u/s on the 21st...can't wait to see his gorgeous face again. And they say at this point his face is as it will look at birth...hope I get a good look at it!</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Weight gain? I have gained 12 lbs. last weigh in from my pregnancy. But I had already gained almost 30 from the fertility meds...so...</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Stretch marks? Not a one yet...keep it up skin!!</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Sleep? Same as it's been. I pee around 3 - 4 times a night...but fall right back to sleep thank God</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Best moment this week? I still love feeling him kick and just sitting and watching my stomach move from him exploring his space. It amazes me every time!! James and Jimmy have both gotten to experience it as well.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Food cravings? I still have not had a single craving...does that make me totally strange?</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Odd pregnancy moment? Hmm...</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Gender? We are having an absolutely perfect little boy...Asher Robert <3</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Belly button...in or out? Still in...shallow, but definately in</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Movement? All the time now and I could not love anything more!!</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">What I miss? I miss sushi...I've had psuedo-sushi made for me at our favorite resturant, but I miss all the fun stuff, and even the weak ones we haven't done in awhile. Stupid lay off + frugal husband = no eating out :)</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">What I'm looking forward to? My u/s on the 21st...I can NOT wait to see him again. He should be around 3 lbs. then, triple what he was the last time. Amazing.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Weekley wisdom: Sorry...I got nothing.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Milestone: We have passed viability and are down to double digit days left (98)...not to mention 3rd trimester right around the corner (next week).</span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span></div></div></div></div>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-73045528352784186392011-08-31T08:46:00.000-07:002011-08-31T08:55:41.258-07:00Holy HellHave I let myself go. A year ago, this woman would never consider leaving the house in anything but 100% put together status. Jimmy would laugh at me that I didn't need heels and make up to go to Lowe's for paint samples. I would dress the whole 9 yards, including heels every day. I did my hair and my make up before ever considering leaving the house. I even changed my pocketbook to match the current ensemble. It was just who I was. Even my jewelry would be carefully considered to compliment what I was wearing. Fast forward to the woman that sits before you now...tsk tsk. She is a hot mess. I got my hair cut by a new stylist and she butchered it. I had to go to a second new girl to have it "fixed", but now it is way short and I have cowlicks that sick up after I lay down. It's horrible. I can't tell you the last time I wore make up and jewelry is fast joining that MIA status as well. I have had the same bag with my crap in it since I got pregnant, maybe even before. Such as today, I am wearing the same dress I wore yesterday. I do have a bra on at least since I have to drop off and pick up James at school and don't think that would be appropriate should someone see me. I did shower yesterday for his Open House as well. I was doing "better" when I was working, but now that I am home every day I am such a slouth. Poor Jimmy hasn't had a put together wife in some time. Sad, really. He doesn't deserve this. I just don't have it in my to care. I just want to nap and chill whenever I have a free moment. It's horrible how lazy I have become. I am slacking on my personal hygiene, my correspondence, my household chores, EVERYTHING!! Some days I'm not even sure I recognize the woman I have become. I know I don't care for her too much ::sigh::
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<br />Still haven't found my wedding set and it makes me cry every time I think of it. Pretty please Universe...send it back to me!!
<br />Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-61347215162763013612011-08-22T06:27:00.000-07:002011-08-22T06:44:44.251-07:00Things lost...<span style="font-family:georgia;">So Tuesday night I was so achy from not feeling well that I took my wedding set off. I swear I put it on my high kitchen counter near my phone and forgot to bring it in the bedroom. Wednesday I felt worse and didn't even think about it. So Thursday I feel a little better and go to put my ring (they are soddered together) back on and they are gone. I have looked high and low and nothing. I can not imagine where they could be. Jimmy keeps saying they are in the house and we will find them when I least expect it in the craziest place. But I keep thinking, "what if I threw them away?"...by Thursday the garage pick up had already occurred, so they would be gone. Totally and completely lost. I am absolutely devastated and so, so sad.
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<br />So I go to work after realizing about my rings. And at 11 after quite awhile of bsing with my boss, he says to me, "I have to let you go". It was so out of the blue (the statement, we have been slow and he has been stressed for awhile). I thought he might be joking or something, till I see his face and then I realize he is not. He is serious. He keeps assuring me that he loves me and this is because his accountant told him it was the only way to keep the company going through the slow winter months. I just wish he had been honest with me when his daughter started coming into "train" for my maternity leave. I was training her to take my job over. So now I am unemployed. It's crazy. Jimmy and I had been figuring out numbers and trying to figure out me staying home when baby comes. But this was not what I was expecting. But I am trying to find the silver lining. Now I get to "enjoy" some time with my pregnancy as well. And I know I will be home with Asher when he arrives. And I can get the house in order. But man, it is going to be stressful financially for awhile till we get our tax money and pay a few things off that we had planned prior to me staying home. But really I'm not upset about this. Now I can collect unemployment while I figure out what I want to do and have some time to enjoy Asher without going back to work hanging over my head.
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<br />Then I come home with my sad little personal box of belongings. I'm taking it out of the car and I notice a sticker on the back of the Land Rover that is sitting in front of our house since I was hit and stopped driving it. We have 48 hours to move it or it will be empounded. So Jimmy gets home and jumps it and starts it up. And it won't shift gears. Will not come out of park. So he crawls underneath and sees that the brake fluid is low. So he goes and gets some and replenishes it. Tries pumping the brakes to get the fluid going (I am unaware of him doing this :) and nothing. Won't come out of park. So by the end of the day we are laughing to keep from crying. So Friday I drop James off at school and call the tow truck guy I had spoken to and set up for him to get the Land Rover. I contact the garage that is taking the car and let them know he is due in an hour. So my old boss calls me and tells me that his mechanic buddy says that if you have't used the car recently the brakes can stick. To get in and pump them (now remember I didn't know that Jimmy had already done this with the fluid), so I go out and do this and BAM...it drops into gear. I am so excited and caught off guard that I jump out and check that the car is okay (tires, etc.). Then run to the garage and start moving things, fearing the whole time that it won't go back in gear when I get in again. But it does. So I call the tow truck guy and leave him a voice mail canceling him coming. As I'm shutting my garage he drives up. Thank God he didn't give me a hard time about charging me still.
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<br />So...now if I could jut find my damn rings...life would be good!! </span>
<br />Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-85511962155536062872011-08-18T07:11:00.000-07:002011-08-18T07:14:36.052-07:00SAHMSo Jimmy and I sat down and looked at our financial numbers. It looks like there is a very large possibilty that I might be able to be a SAHM when Asher is born. I am too terrified it won't actually happen to get excited just yet. I feel like I am struggling just to make it happen so I can stay home for 3 months for maternity leave, to really focus on after that :) But it is definately something we will continue to pursue and I am praying like mad that it happens. It is my dream since I was alittle girl and the thought that it might actually happen...WOW...
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<br />On a sad note...I took my wedding set off when my body ached from being sick and I can not find it now...I am devastated and pray that it turns up. Where could it have gone, right?
<br />Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-17339894052537092592011-08-16T07:32:00.000-07:002011-08-16T07:42:53.140-07:00So many things...<span style="font-family:georgia;">I feel like I am a bad blogger. I just don't want to bore anyone with my everyday mundane things. And when I was so sick at the beginning just getting through the day was a challenge. Then I got so sick with broncitis. It just seems to be one thing after another that keeps me from having anything exciting to report :) Now it seems I have bunch of "things".
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<br />I had my girls weekend this past weekend. It was lovely to see them but so different being pregnant on the trip. And we had a bunch of "mishaps" while we were there to keep us on our toes. I was very proud of how we handled it all though.
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<br />Then there is the head cold I came home with or the UTI the doctor's office confirmed yesterday. I'm on antibiotics for that. Feel like crap (again!) and just want to crawl into bed. Seems to be a theme for me. But instead I am here at work...dying.
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<br />Or maybe that I am snoring so bad from the extra baby weight that Jimmy has basically moved into our nursery/spare bedroom for the time being. I hope when my head cold ends it might have some affect on it, but I don't think it will. I cried so hard last night when he told me that he could not keep going without sleep or getting up and moving rooms in the middle of the night. This is SO not what I wanted and it makes me so sad. But not sure what I can do about it.
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<br />But the most exciting thing of all...because of my anterior placenta I have not really had baby movement experiences. Which had been a huge bummer since this pregnancy is it for me. But Sunday night...Jimmy and I are sitting on the couch. I am exhausted from my trip and driving for 5 hours and all that we "experienced" that weekend. So we are just hanging out together...I missed him so much. I have my hand on my belly and I felt it...inside and out. A kick. No doubting it...it was a kick!! He did it a second time. So I took Jimmy's hand and placed it where mine had been and he felt it too. Then last night same thing. I had hoped he would get active earlier so James could feel it before bed, but he is a late night person I guess. So I have not been able to let him experience it...but I think it might happen in the near future. The little man is getting so strong!! I love it <3 </span>
<br />Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-92175954989027850502011-08-08T07:11:00.000-07:002011-08-08T07:16:43.933-07:00Girl's WeekendSo, I leave on Thursday night for my yearly Fall Funk Fest, my yearly girls weekend. I know it's not Fall yet, but we are "borrowing" a condo from one of the girl's sister and this is when we could have it. Kind of rough since it's Florida and it's August and this year has been HOT. But I would be dying in the heat either way I guess. Thursday is going to be a long day. I get up and get James to school. Then off to work. Pick him up after work and take him home. Make sure I have everything together including the cooler of drinks and food I am bringing. Then it's a 3.5 hour drive to the airport. Pick up the girls and then drive another 45+ minutes to the condo from the airport. We should get in after midnight. I'm not sure I have that in me :) And if I'm honest I am terrified of keeping up with them the entire weekend. I am having a hard time lately being in the heat and even running basic errands with Jimmy on weekends is exhausting. I need a nap on work days. So I hope I don't drag them down. We already had to cancel going air boating because of me. But they keep saying we are going to take it easy. Lay by the pool and walk around downtown. I hope that it's not too much on me. But I know they will understand if it is...they are my girls after all. So looking forward to seeing them and catching up. I miss them when we are in our own little states. So.much.fun!!
<br />Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-14591195258199805482011-08-01T05:44:00.001-07:002011-08-01T05:45:10.348-07:00Thought<span style="font-family:georgia;">I can feel my belly growing daily. That is all I have.</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-61008638696171032162011-07-27T06:42:00.000-07:002011-07-27T06:49:29.641-07:00His NameSo. When we first started talking about baby names. The girl name came to us right away. I threw out a name I had always loved, Piper and Jimmy loved it too. It just seemed to marry so perfectly to his grandmother's name that we ended up with Piper Rose. I have to admit I was bummed I wouldn't get to use it when we found out we were having a boy. I really adore it. But there you go. Now the boy name...not so much. I had always wanted to use my maiden name as a first name. But Jimmy was not a fan of that idea. I threw out hundred of names over many months and was shot down each and every time. No good. Then we were at my grandfather's church. Waiting to talk to the Pastor. And in thier sanctuary they have bibical names etched on the glass. Jimmy points to Asher and says, "What do you think?" I liked it. Then I did some research. Asher was a king. The king of what is current day Lebanon. Could that be anymore perfect? And it also means Peace. Love that!! So that was it for me. I was sold. We were originally going to go with Samual as the middle name. It's my great grandfather's name and he was an amazing man. But then, my grandfather became such an intrical part of our IF journey. This pregnancy would NOT have happened without him. So we decided to change the middle name to honor him. And I think he is most excited about it. So it was worth the change. And I think it works...Asher Robert. I think it's a good name. A wonderful name for my amazing miracle boy. Yes, a good name indeed.Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-59670937911321271332011-07-26T06:46:00.000-07:002011-07-26T06:54:12.993-07:00Level 2 Ultrasound<div><span style="font-family:georgia;">So we finally had our Level 2 ultrasound. We got to see our little one for the first time in 13 weeks. We had been in the dark since our viability u/s at 7 weeks. We are having a beautiful, healthy, moving around like crazy BOY!! I am so excited. </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span></div><span style="font-family:georgia;"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 304px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5633657469940938930" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdVSJ2iU8aIkROIbzb7_RSA42uXVtgY8ORUy-EuSbwD9F0HsmXVlKoVhpHxQ-EXDxy3BLgBzGq6dJ_JeFMkInrn4ee_SfVh3G1jnXs6kf1En92pUZxwwNzhAoiOdIwzroswXoXDyDXlqPq/s320/Asher+Robert.jpg" /></span> <br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">Isn't he gorgeous? I am more and more in love every time. And because of (1) my age (2) the u/s doctor is good friends with my RE and (3) he had a daughter who had a baby last year at my age...the doctor wants to do at least 1, possible 2 more u/s as we progress. So I have another one in 8 weeks. I'm waiting to hear what the date is...but I'm so thrilled to see him again. Especially since I have a front placenta. Meaning it's buffering me from feeling Asher move and kick and be as active as I watched him be yesterday. He was moving so much that the tech said he was making her job really hard, and I could not be more thrilled. So I very possible will not feel him at all. And definately not this early. I am devastated. This is my one and only shot at pregnancy...so I was SO looking forward to feeling him in there...and it breaks my heart that I may never. But he is doing amazing in there. He has long legs and a big belly (according to the tech) and he is a little above average in size...he's a lb. already!! So all is good in my world. Jimmy and I are over the moon and already starting to really plan the nursery. I can not wait!! James was a little bummed as he wanted a sister, but I think he'll change his tune once he meets his amazing little brother. Because...they are going to be best friends, I just know it :)</span></div>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-59735432260102535072011-07-22T06:56:00.000-07:002011-07-22T07:03:19.540-07:00TGIFriday and then Monday...MonDAY...MONDAY!!I am so flipping excited about my u/s on Monday. I have not seen Hercules since 7 weeks...that is almost 13 weeks by the time I see her/him again. Unacceptable :) But in the mean time. I had gone to my hair dresser to get a cut. I wanted her to cut it short and she refused, needless to say I am looking for a new hairdresser as I will cut it short...but that's another story. So I was pretty down on my hair and self. I had so much out growth and gray that it looked like crap and I felt old. I mean really old. So she mentions henna hair color to me. So I started researching, and found out it is totally natural. From plants and roots natural. So I found a color from an on-line company that I liked and ordered it. It finally arrived this week and my husband (yes my husband colors me hair, he is so "frugal" that the savings makes it worth it for him and it's alot easier for me :) colored my hair. The product was really strange and went on like mud. It dried like mud too. So it was a real bitch to get out of my hair, but it worked. That's the key. I have no gray, no roots and I don't look like I am 60 something. I love it. It's a good week!! And then next week is my u/s...which is the best week ever. I can barely contain myself. I just keep looking at Jimmy and saying "Monday...MonDAY...MONDAY!!"...Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-80586552848731578832011-07-05T07:24:00.000-07:002011-07-05T07:40:29.169-07:004TH OF JULY<span style="font-family:georgia;">James and his cousin having a blast on Independence Day :)<br /></span><br /><br /><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dw1jq_fRgLX-vzZLKCGKyr_0-gA5HCmaKEeWgWEM5ay21HwA-orVMVhSnCwxtiKhkYbsltDta35mT2ulq8vDw' class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-48756744990406540782011-06-29T06:31:00.001-07:002011-06-29T06:32:17.057-07:00UghWoke up to an excrusiating calf charlie horse (I've had ones in my arch as well :). I forgot how painful they are. Horrible way to start the day.Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-28097578900098715072011-06-28T08:20:00.000-07:002011-06-28T08:24:07.171-07:00Massage<span style="font-family:georgia;">So, for my birthday, Jimmy and James gave me a massage gift certificate. So I had called and scheduled an appointment then had to change it because I was sick. Then I had to call and cancel it because I was STILL sick. So finally I got to go this past weekend. Ladies...if you have never had the joy of a massage...treat yourself!! I have been getting massages for years. I got Jimmy going with me for couples massages since shortly after we started dating. He wasn't sure he would like it and now he reminds me that it's been X amount of time since our last :) So I thoroughly enjoyed Saturday. I got an excellent massuesse (spelling?). She had just the right touch. I was loving it. I would like to get another one done when I am further along. But we'll have to see how that goes. Heavenly I tell you. So...do what you have to to make it happen for yourself Loves. You deserve it...</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-31999923557638060052011-06-17T09:32:00.001-07:002011-06-17T09:48:22.178-07:00Sick!!So I went to Chicago for my Godson (and his twin's) baptism my birthday weekend. I was set to stay with my little brother and his family. When I got there I was informed that his wife and son had been sick, but were "over it". Lies. All lies. The baby was sick the entire time and my SIL ended up at Emergency Care on Sunday. So...I got sick. And of course with being pregnant my immune system is weak and mine turned into broncitis, acute broncial spasms, sinisitious and a viral infection. Fun stuff. I have been sick for 9 days now and I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel yet. I tell Jimmy I am dying at least once a day...it has become a joke around our house at this point. I saw the doctor and was put on antibiotics (weak ones) and an inhaler. But they do not seem to be helping me. I am so frustrated. I have coughing fits (that sometimes end in my vomitting) that then make it nearly impossible to breathe. And I had to come back to work even though I am not nearly ready. It bites. Today after a pretty nasty coughing fit and alot of wheezing and trouble breathing, Jimmy told me that we can go up to Illinois and smack my brother and his family. I just might take him up on that!! I even had to cancel my prenatal massage that I had scheduled for tomorrow (my birthday present from the boys :) because I didn't think I could enjoy it and didn't want to get anyone else sick.<br /><br />And while I was at my sick appointment, my doctor had me do bloodwork to check on my Vitamin B12 and D deficiancy statuses (I have been taking supplements for awhile now). And while I was dying on the couch yesterday after work, they called to inform me that I had not absorbed a smidge of the B12 (the horrible, caulk like pill that I have to gag down...bastard!) and I have to switch (with my OB's permission) to a weekly B12 shot (in the ass thank you very much). So I finally finish with my fertility shots, and now I get this. And once I'm not pregnant anymore...I will add shots for my MS as well. I am destined to be a pin cushion I guess. I just need to accept it. It's crap I tell you!!Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-90534903196434123502011-06-08T10:05:00.000-07:002011-06-08T10:59:12.790-07:002nd Trimester<span style="font-family:georgia;">Holy crap...how did that happen already? My chance of miscarriage goes down to 5%...that is my favorite part. If the morning sickness would subside...it would be perfect :)</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-70415890121020122592011-05-31T08:28:00.000-07:002011-05-31T08:34:03.297-07:00Exhausted...So...I was born with bad hips. They have always been a weak joint for me. When I started IF treatment I was a good 20 lbs. overweight. Then add IF meds and another 25 lbs. Way too much for my frame. Now that I'm pregnant, I have to sleep on my side, i.e. on my hips. They hurt all the time. Last night I kept moving from one position to another trying to take the pressure off my hip. I have a pillow between my legs and one I body hug. I finally got up and slept on the couch where I could sleept with my head elevated and my feet elevated at the same time so I wouldn't get pain in my stomach. But it meant I more napped throughout the night. Not to mention all the sleep I lost trying to fall asleep initially. It sucks. I am not even 3 months along and I am already struggling with this. How am I going to survive the rest of this pregnancy? I have two flatter pillows from my couch that I am going to snag tonight and see if I can place one or both under my hip and see if that takes some of the pressure off. I already sleep on a foam mattress atop our normal mattress. I am starting to panic a little...okay...alot!!Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-10040449782577955412011-05-27T07:21:00.000-07:002011-05-27T07:42:18.673-07:00First OB Appointment<span style="font-family:georgia;">So I had my first OB appointment yesterday. Got to hear Hercules' heartbeat. It is the BEST sound ever. Unfortunately the doctor only let me hear it for a milisecond. Not nice Dr. Wolk. So as a result I HAD to order a doppler to hear it all the time. I think Jimmy will get a kick out of it as well and I can not wait for it to arrive!! Like it needs to be in my mailbox when I get home, can't wait. Hurry up!! So I asked doc about coloring my hair. And he said to me, "with all that you have been through to get here...is it really that important to take any chances...you don't look that bad". So I guess I will not be coloring my hair till after I give birth. That should be a lovely mess as it already looks like shit. My poor godson who will forever have pictures of a fat, old, gray haired godmother in his baptism pictures next weekend. Oh well. I guess he is right in his cautionary attitude. Jimmy and I opted out of the down testing. We would never do anything to end the pregnancy anyway, so why take a chance with false positive and worrying and such. I had a downs aunt. My concern with this is the medical issues that come with it. Sadly she passed very young from a hole in her heart. I could care less about the mental issues. I would not love my child any less...I just hate the thought of them not living a long and healthy life. But we are not doing that. Bad part of that is no u/s in a week now. Boo. But what can you do. So my next u/s will be at 18 weeks for an indepth look to see if there are any deformaties or issues that can/need to be addressed while I'm still pregnant. But it's also when we will get to find out the sex. So 7 more weeks till that. I go back in a month for another check up. But doc said that all was as it should be. My cervix was good. The heartbeat was perfect (I could not agree more!!) and everything was right on track for where it should be. So all in all...a very successful visit. Whew. Now...where the hell is my doppler...shouldn't it be here by now? Come on already!!<br /><br />On a side note...I just had a thought pop in my head. The whole issue of IVF meaning that my child is any less viable then a natural conception child really bothers me. I have a friend who's children can not be baptised in her Catholic church because they are IVF babies. But if you believe as I do that God has his hand in all...then if he really didn't believe that I should have this amazing miracle that is snuggled in right now, then wouldn't he have just made my IVF not work? I mean the odds were all against me. Two eggs, one fertilized and matured. Not very good chances...and yet...miracle of miracles...I got pregnant and have successfully carried this pregnancy further than any that I conceieved naturally!! I'm sorry, but I trully believe that God wants me to have this baby as much as I do. That he put me in the hands of amazing doctors who helped to make this happen. But then...that's just me.</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-62399268977278229062011-05-18T07:37:00.000-07:002011-05-19T06:53:28.969-07:0010 weeksSo I made it to double digits. Woot woot :) I also am sharing my first belly pic. I look huge already. I don't think that is normal!!<br /><br /><br /><p><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 227px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5608423782452375074" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVnJBybCaVWQGS4eOVQ5OvjHfpYA4xvZUo9bLoJKlYzyxqVeO9lTUl6bUbQFaLvPuAhCPDl-iqkn3tDfYUh4uSzky5e6V6fKAfjWHITEwSVya5HAYTziCDyQADLDxYjBqaBu7hKchyphenhyphenS8Fl/s320/10_weeks.jpg" /> How far along? 10 weeks 1 day<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Weight gain/loss: Unfortunately I had gained almost 25 lbs. from the fertility meds. But I have not gained anything from the pregnancy as yet.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Maternity clothes? I wear a mix of regular and maternity pants and tops<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Sleep: I have been waking up alot to pee. Last night I used a pillow between my legs/knees and actually almost made it through the night for the first time since I'm pregnant. I hope it's not just a fluke :) Update: It was a fluke, back to peeing all night last night.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Best moment this week? any moment I'm not sick<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Food cravings: I have not had any cravings. I've had things I no longer like as a result of trying to eat them when I feel sick.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>What I'm missing: SUSHI...big time!! Jimmy promises me he will bring me rolls in the hospital...although I have to find out if they are okay while I'm nursing.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Gender? I don't know yet...not till August...Jimmy really wants a girl, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for him. My Mom keeps saying it's a girl from different "signs", but we'll see. I just want healthy...I'm more excited to see what she/he looks like.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Belly button...in or out? In still<br /></p><br /><br /><p>What I'm looking forward to: My first OB appointment next Thursday...and I pray an u/s.</p>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-75511270684193212112011-05-17T06:45:00.000-07:002011-05-17T06:47:34.709-07:00::sigh::<span style="font-family:georgia;">I think that Jimmy and I have fought more in the 2 1/2 months of this pregnancy then we have in the 2 1/2 year prior. Not sure we're going to survive the whole pregnancy. Wouldn't that be ironic?</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-32185849328624424652011-05-13T10:57:00.000-07:002011-05-13T11:08:06.858-07:00FearI fear so much with this pregnancy/baby. I fear losing the pregnancy. 2 previous miscarriages will do that to a person. And with all we went through for this pregnancy, we would not be able to try again. We would have to move forward in a different direction. I direction I had prayed I would never have to head. I keep hoping at each stage that the fear will lessen on this and I will be more confident in the pregnancy. It still may...but right now...every symptom. I fear it's a bad sign. Every change in a symptom...does it mean that the pregnancy is not viable anymore? Then I fear crazy things like pooping during labor. Or where am I going to be when my water breaks? Will it be the most inappropriate time/place? I'm too afraid to take any meds for my morning sickness (that lasts all day). Too afraid to take any meds at all for that matter. And lastly, after wanting to be a Mom since I was conceived I think...I fear being a bad Mom. I fear not bonding with my baby. Or worse...the baby not bonding with me. That there will just be a disconnect...and I will be devastated. As I've gotten older in life, I have become a less patient person in general. I fear that since I didn't have a child when I was younger and more youthful and full of exuberance...I should not have had one now. That I'm too old for this gig. I have wanted this for so long...I am so terrified of being disappointed in the reality of it. Am I insane, apparently so...but I can not control the fear. I try not to share it with Jimmy as he might not understand after all I put us both through to make this a reality, not feeling simply pure joy. And I am thrilled...do not get me wrong. I am thankful every day that this worked and I am pregnant. I don't even mind the m/s (well, maybe I do when I have it :), the pains and cramps. But the fear is always there..bubbling under the surface of happiness. Just waiting to grab my ankle and rear it's ugly head again. Lurking...always lurking.Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-17622600219186310662011-05-12T09:41:00.000-07:002011-05-13T13:38:33.035-07:00FearsI have so many fears. So many. I fear having a miscarriage. Two in my past make it impossible not to. I fear every change in symptoms. Is a new one good or bad? Does one going away mean that the pregnancy is no longer viable? I fear labor. All the craziness of it. The pain. The pooping. All the silliness of your water breaking, and I know mine will happen at the worst possible moment. I can guarantee it. But I also fear that I will not be a good Mom. I fear that I won't bond with the baby. That I will not feel a closeness to them. That they won't be a closeness to me. I fear...Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-22283029437268981282011-05-09T08:19:00.000-07:002011-05-09T08:29:27.783-07:00Weekend Away<span style="font-family:georgia;">So...Jimmy, James and I took off for the weekend. We headed up to Orlando. Hit Epcot on Friday. Had a blast. Rode every ride (I couldn't go on one) except two that were 90 minute waits. But we thoroughly enjoyed the day. James had a cranky episode when he was hungry. But as soon as he got lunch in his tummy, all was good with the world again. He is such a diva when he is hungry. Got to the hotel and there was no pull out bed in our king room. So they switched us to a double queen room. It did the job, but I was really looking forward to stretching out on a king for the two nights. Oh well. Saturday I felt sick off and on, but Jimmy was sweet enough to cover for me. Let me stay in the room and rest for a bit each time. James was in hog heaven at the Water Resort portion of our hotel. They had a ton of water slides and pools and water cannons, etc. He ran himself ragged. It was wonderful to see. Sunday we got up and had our free breakfast as a result of them taking an hour to make a pizza. Then headed home for football. I felt really sick so Jimmy let me bail out and handled it on his own. Even went to the grocery store to food shop for me. Damn, I love that man!! And now I have been on the phone with the hotel for hours...yes I said hours trying to get thier accounting errors corrected. The idiot that screwed up our food order so that we waiting an hour double charged us as well. And there are two "mystery" charges that no one can tell me what they are for or from. I am starting to not be so nice anymore. I am getting really angry and frustrated and it is taking away any pleasure I had staying there. It's bad enough that they take out an "incidental" charge and no one can tell me when it will be returned. Now I have these lovely extra charges and bonus charge. Grrr. They are not going to like me in about 5 minutes. This is absolute insanity!!</span>Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1151257062196028779.post-1888085502313331512011-05-03T07:59:00.000-07:002011-05-03T08:08:30.468-07:008 weeksSo the nauseau has kicked in. I can't even call it morning sickness because it comes ALL day. I know it means that things are as they should be. But it sucks. I hate feeling sick. And I hate forcing myself to eat. But you do what you have to, right? And it will be SO worth it. I am still getting bigger and bigger. I still think there might be a chance that there are twins in there with how soon I am showing and such. But time will tell. Both my sisters that had twins were told they were having a single till much later in thier pregnancy (one only found out 2 weeks before she delivered and only on a fluke :). I just want healthy...but it would make me feel better about how big I am getting. But what can you do? This will be my only shot at this pregnancy gig...so I am trying to enjoy ever aspect of it. We are heading to Epcot and staying in Orlando for Mother's Day weekend. I hope I do okay with it all. We chose Epcot in hopes that there are at least some things I can do while pregnant. Saturday we are hanging at the hotel we booked. It has all kinds of water slides and pools for James and I'm looking forward to just chilling. Not really thrilled about racing back for his football game. I personally think he can miss one week. But on this Jimmy and I differ and it appears that even though it is "my" day I am losing the battle. I think if I made a big stink I might sway him, but is it worth it? I think not. So I will not get that relaxing breakfast and leisurely drive back to relax at home for the day. Maybe pop in at our Mom's to wish them a happy day. We already celebrated with my Mom in Tampa last weekend when so many of us were together to see my neice's wedding dress. But I thought it would still be nice. Now we'll have to see if that works out at all. ::sigh::Heather Carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07180147142888448880noreply@blogger.com3